Sunday, July 21, 2013

Hope Is Not A Strategy

I recently had someone say "Hope Is Not A Strategy". This is actually the title to a book I plan to read but think about this statement. Hope is NOT a strategy.  So many times in good and bad situations we  say "I sure HOPE that doesn't happen". Is there anything you can do to make sure what you are referring to doesnt happen?  If the answer is yes, then do it. "I sure hope we make it on time". Ok, then leave early, plan ahead. "I sure hope I pass this test". Ok, then study. In my work place I can not sit back and hope my sells improve. I have to work. I am my own PR person for myself and my products. I must take action. When you are dating someone you don't just hope it will go good, that they will like you, that they will enjoy being around you. You must back that hope up with actions. You don't really think you just hope to keep your job if you are NOT  DOING your job? You don't really think you can just hope to keep your friends if you are not BEING a friend? If you were the boss would you keep that employee on board if they always said "I sure hope we get that contract"  and they never made any effort to close the deal? No, because their actions must back up their hope.

Do not get me wrong, hope is a wonderful thing. There have been times hope is all I felt I had. All I am saying is do not JUST hope for something. Do not JUST hope for a change.  Do not JUST hope to be happy. Do not JUST hope to be better at something. Do not JUST hope, hope is NOT a strategy. You must back your hope up with actions.

Oh and think about this. We all hear  " it is what it is". Now I say, " it is what it is UNTIL you do something about it." Again...actions.


Jeremiah 29:11 For I know the plans I have for you, declares the LORD, plans for welfare and not for evil, to give you a future and a hope.

Thursday, July 11, 2013

Change...it happens

Look up the meaning to the word "change". You will see things  like "to become different", "transform" and "alter."  We as humans for the most part fear change, resist change. We get so comfortable in our ways, our routines, our lives. We have all heard that the only constant thing is change and it is true.

Everything around us is constantly changing. The weather is constantly changing. From sunshine to rain isn't always the best change UNLESS you are in a drought. But if you are planning an outdoor event, that change isn't a good one. From rain to sunshine! This change will be good for some and not for others just depends on the circumstances of each individual.

The economy is always changing. Again, good for some and bad for others. Right now, probably most of us agree, it's not so good.

The demands of our job, again always changing. Some people may gain responsibilities and others might have their load lightened. Good for some, bad for others.
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I'm heading to the beach soon and there is a storm brewing in the gulf. If it rains while I am there, my plans will change. I can either be mad or deal with it. That is up to me.

Some change we play a part in, some just happens and we must deal with it. My brother no longer being in my life is a change I had no control of. The cancer controlled that change. That change effected me on many levels. But I learned a lot from that change. I learned I am strong. I learned again that without God I could not have made it through that. I learned who my true friends and supporters are through their actions and words during that change. I am changed because of that change I could not control. I could have very easily crawled in a ditch and never come out because of that change. I refuse to let that change in my life control me. That change has made me realize how precious life is, and I need to live it.

My oldest son is starting college. My youngest son is changing schools. This is a change for all of us. I believe it is a change that is going to have a great outcome but it is still a change.

While some changes are by choice and some forced upon us we must really look at what is changing and how it effects everyone. Some changes will cause everyone in the situation "to become different" on one level or another. Some changes will "alter" one or many people, some for the better and some may not see it that way. Some changes will "transform" those involved. Again, some changes we have control over, some we don't. I do however believe it is up to us as individuals to make sure changes that happen for us or to us "alter" things for the better, "transform" us into who we need to be, to create us "to become different."  I'm not by any means saying we must love or even like the change but we must not let the change control us, destroy us or define us.  We must allow that change to make us better, "transform" us into who we should be.

Somethings changing arent easy, won't always be fun and won't always be accepted but are a must in life.

Things change that is a fact. How we are going to handle that change is the real question. Allow it to help us become who we need to become or allow it to destroy us? 

Change...it happens